Use These 5 Tips and Eliminate Worry from Your Life, Forever
I’m a natural worrier, or at least I was. It’s part of a critical nature that notices the out of place, the anomalies, the gaps between this and that.
“If there’s a better way to do it, I will find it. I must!” That’s the way I think.
It’s a double-edged sword, really. I love my interrogative spirit. It’s what makes me curious about life, people, the world around me. It’s what makes me dive deep to discover whys of it all.
There’s another side.
I’m also the first to notice when something isn’t right, or isn’t working… perfectly. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see how this can lead to some pretty negative mental habits, including the habit of worrying.
Nature abhors a vacuum. When there’s a gap between problem and solution that won’t close or resolve itself, worry can take over. In this state of limbo, the focus is placed on the problem and all of the potentially adverse outcomes. This is a dangerous road to travel and can even lead to depression is left unchecked.
Worry typically stems from incorrect, unhelpful, disempowering beliefs. Even if we’re not fully aware of these negative mindsets, they’re there. In the background. Telling us what to think and how to feel. If you believe, for example, your happiness is dependent on how much someone else values you, you will be susceptible to worry. You may feel a sense of uncertainty about measuring up to their ideal or anxiety about being taken for granted. The list goes on and on. It’s an unnecessary burden to bear because you can’t control how someone sees you.
For me, conquering worry came down to a full acceptance of the belief that the only powers I have are the power to control myself and to give my best. Those beliefs compounded by a commitment to live life in alignment with my values, consistently, keeps me clear of worry. I’ll do all that I can, and the rest goes to God.
Getting rid of worry comes down to identifying, confronting and replacing negative beliefs with more productive ones. Below are five tips to help tackle worry by eliminating outdated mindsets and perspectives from your life.
Uncover the origin of belief(s) fueling your worry. What’s at the root of your anxiety? Is it fear? Take the time to dismantle your thought process around the issue and see what unfolds. If you find beliefs that are inaccurate or that no longer serve you, this could be the cause of worry. Now that you have more clarity on the issue you can find a more relevant and empowering belief and work on internalizing it. One way to do this is through affirmations or meditation. It may take awhile, but as the belief becomes integrated, it’ll feel as though a weight is being lifted from your shoulders.
Be more self-focused. Instead of looking for control in the outer world, go inward. Refocus your energies on mastering yourself. Train your habits of thought, emotion, and behavior. Doing this will make you less prone to worry, more resourceful and more confident in your ability to handle whatever comes your way.
Be solutions oriented. The moment a worrying thought surfaces, force yourself to switch mental gears towards a solution. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in a downward spiral of ruminative thought. Instead, come up with the best solution currently available to you and be done with it.
Sometimes the only solution available at such a moment will be to have faith and trust that whatever the outcome, you can handle it.
Be satisfied with giving your imperfect best. Your efforts don’t have to be perfect to be valid. Focus on the fact that you did the best you could in the moment. That’s really all you can ask of yourself. Be satisfied with that. It’s enough.
Develop an attitude of gratitude. This is the one habit I feel serves as a – catch-all – eliminator for all forms of negative thought. An attitude of gratitude. A grateful spirit has no room for worry. It’s too busy counting its blessings. If you truly want to banish worry from your life, cultivate a grateful heart.
Worrying is a debilitating habit. It weakens resolve and suppresses internal resources. Fortunately, it can be eliminated. The tips above are just a few things you can do to drive out worry from your life. Each of them works with a bit of practice and a lot of consistency.